If you’ve heard the term “pick your battles”, consider these two points that determine the consequence to both yourself and the situation:
- the word ‘battle’ immediately sends a message to your nervous response system so it prepares for that perceived battle and can enter flight or fight mode based on your underlying feelings. Flight mode is a position of anxiety, worry and fear. It’s a place where you’ve learned to suppress your voice to keep yourself safe, along with the probability that your opinion in the situation has no worth. On the other hand, if you enter fight mode you’re dealing with rage, anger and frustration. Both of these responses can escalate to a worsened state of overwhelm, immobility and shame.
- instead, act in accordance to your values and aligned to your boundaries. By doing so you speak your truth by routine, and not sporadically based on someone else’s interpretation of what situation is valid of your opinion. Something that needs to be unlearned based on past experiences that may still impact you today.
So in a nutshell, there is no ‘battle’. There is a situation that’s presented to you that requires you to remain consistent and in truth to yourself. No matter how big or small and no matter how frequent or infrequently. In turn your nervous system learns to become grounded, connected and calm enabling a balanced, logical response and an improved outcome in whatever scenario needs your attention.
I work with both men and women helping them to release traumatic impact that often generates from repeating patterns of behaviour that doesn’t serve their personal growth to:
- achieve emotional balance + mindfulness
- reduce stress + find connection
- feel safe + supported
- be heard + empowered
- increase their self belief + worth
- reconnect with identity + soul purpose
- create intention, growth + learn new skills
With down to earth conversation either online or in-person, you can make an appointment or learn more at https://www.alisonjeavons.com