... it can become that way, but first, you must see it for how it really is. - Soulchology
A square peg won't fit any better into a round hole by wanting the peg to be round.
To change a situation, first become aware; lose the filter and look realistically at what you're dealing with. Avoid misunderstandings, crossed expectations and projections of how you think or wish things were, and become limitless instead of limited.